The Story of How I Saved My Marriage From Divorce - The Incredible Secret I Want to Share With You!

Whether you are in the middle of a breakup with your spouse, or trying to save your own marriage from a divorce, this article may help offer you a new perspective. I was facing the end of my marriage a few years ago and desperate to find a solution to save the relationship and prevent a divorce. I want to share with you the incredible secret I learned that not only has saved my marriage but the marriages of thousands of other couples.

When my wife hit me with the news that she didn’t want to be married any more, I was shocked beyond my ability to describe. Sure, we’d been having problems for quite awhile, but I never expected anything like this! I always thought that we’d “hang in there” and that things would eventually work themselves out. Apparently my wife saw it differently.

Naturally I did what most any other spouse would do in a similar situation. I immediately tried to plead with her not to file for divorce; to give our marriage another chance. I tried to reason with her and listened to her as she rattled off all of the things that she thought were wrong with me and wrong with our marriage. I apologized and promised to change. I found myself getting defensive at times, and argued with her. I called her a lot at work over the next few days, trying to reach out to her. Nothing I did seemed to help. In fact, she seemed more determined than ever!

I was now at my lowest point. My most loving and sincere efforts to save my marriage were failing. I just didn’t understand why she was doing this and was desperate for a way to get back her love and start over. And then, almost by accident, I stumbled on some truths about relationships that had never occurred to me before. I learned about a proven approach that had worked for other couples in the same situation as we were in. Here is what I learned that proved to be a starting point for saving my marriage, even after my wife had wanted a divorce:

1. My negative emotional state was paralyzing me and clouding my thinking. It was causing me to make the common critical mistakes that will kill your chance to save the marriage. I learned how to get out of my negative emotional state and put myself in a more resourceful state.

2. I would be the one to create meaningful change in my marriage. I would stop blaming myself or my wife. I learned the exact things to say and do to begin to immediately change the dynamics in our marriage. It worked even though my wife wasn’t doing anything!

3. I realized that the more I was pushing, the more she had been pulling away. If you love your spouse enough to let them go, the results can be amazing!

4. Above all, I became willing to take action and follow a proven plan, even if it seemed like the complete opposite of what I should be doing.

I saved my marriage but I got even more than that. My wife and I are now happier than we ever thought possible. We have learned an entirely new way to live and our marriage is so much better for it.

The Story of How I Saved My Marriage From Divorce - The Incredible Secret I Want to Share With You!