Getting those uncomfortable pauses in conversations, especially with people you’ve just met, is uncomfortable to say the least. Say you’ve approached some girl, opened her successfully, and are knee deep in a conversation. You’re almost certain she’ll give you her number, and you’re just getting ready to ask.
Then it hits. She stops talking, you stop talking. Silence. Even if a thumping club, the silence can be deafening. What do you do? If you’re just relying on free-flowing conversation, this can be tough to recover from. But if you have a ready collection of stories, this will never happen.
So how do you create these stories? Just look into your own past, and come up with at least five different stories that are centered around five different emotions. Some useful emotions to hit are discovery, fear, excitement, curiosity, and that of becoming familiar.
Just use any stories from your own past, even if they were from when you were five years old. Don’t worry too much about the actual content. It’s much more important to be as emotionally present and engaged as possible.
For example, for the story of discovery, you might talk about how you and your friends found some free candy bar coupons in the Sunday paper. Then maybe you went to each of your friends’ parents’ houses, and clipped out all the coupons, and then went to the store and had a candy bar party.
If you tell this with plenty of emotions and excitement, it will keep her on the edge of her seat. Also, she’ll be looking through her own past, and coming up with her own feelings of discovery. And as she feels those feelings of discovery, listening to you talk, guess what she’ll be feeling? Feelings of discovery! What will she be discovering? You, that’s who!
The same goes for stories of curiosity, feeling connected, etc. Just find any stories from your own past (so long as they don’t involve you robbing banks or anything), and practice telling them while at home.
For added benefit, you can “nest” them. Meaning once she starts telling some kind of story, you can say that “reminds” you of one of your stories. Then tell the first half of it. Let her interrupt, as she’ll be reminded of another story. Then start another story, finish about half of it, and keep on talking.
Pretty soon, after about fifteen minutes of conversation, there will be plenty of “open loops” and you can “go back” and finish any of the previous stories if there happens to be any lulls in the conversation.
Not only that, but you’ll be moving her through tons of wonderful emotions, that she’ll associate with you. Not bad!
How To Create Stories To Generate Amazing Feelings In Gorgeous Women
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